Relationship Needs by OCG

I was talking about to a friend about the previously mentioned shower test a guy had told me about. He said that he was adding “the shower test” to his list of five things he currently had little “tests” for in determining if the girl he was seeing was right for him. I asked what these five tests were, and he was surprised when I told him I didn’t really have any.

Off-the-cuff I came up with the first five things I could think of. They were the following:
• He opens my door. (car, restaurant… a gentleman.)
• He must tip well.
• I would like him to share (not give me, but share) the arm rest in movies.
• He challenges me.
• He likes dogs.

I brought this up later with Beach Chic. She and I created a list of things that she and I would like... They were as follows.

• He should never yell when he loses his temper. Yelling is a sign of ignorance. Have words that can describe how you feel, and tell (not yell) them to me. I won’t yell either.

• Classy but “one of the boys”… can go from business meetings to the bar with the boys… having a great time being one of the guys…

• We can cook together, prepare meals together

• He must be able to do his own laundry. Not saying that I won’t, but you must have the ability and knowledge of how to do it.

• He can be silly serious… nothing is ever taken too seriously, but nothing is a joke all the time.

• Always on time. (Tardiness is nothing more than a sign of selfishness that your time is more important than those that you are going to meet.)

• When he wants to go out and do something, he has something in mind. I do not want to get into the car and have you ask me where I want to go, if this evening had been YOUR idea. Be a man, make some decisions.

• When something breaks fix it. Be handy, or able to hire someone that is. I hate nothing more than “unfinished projects” around the house.

• He must LOVE football and sports. He must want to attend sporting events, and he must not get mad when I get competitive. This will be the only time when yelling is appropriate AND allowed… AND encouraged. BUT please do not get mad at me that your team lost. Bummed out is fine. Needing your own space is fine. Just don’t get pissed at me. It wasn’t my fault.

• As much as I need him to love sports, I would still like him to go to the theatre with me and not complain… and maybe even enjoy it…


So this is what we came up with. Now that I know what I am looking for, do I think it will be more easily recognized when found? Of this I am not shore. However, as I know who I am and I know what I want, I think perhaps it will be a bit simpler.

Of course, Maybe none of this matters if Joe gets my message.

Ha. Ha. Ha. Who am I joking… He wouldn't check craigslist… he doesn't even update his blog.

yeah… no… I don't think so…