The Art of Seduction

part I - His Mind

As women we hold a huge amount of power in our hands… and our minds... and our breasts… and our ass… and our legs… We need to make sure that we are welding this power to our benefit, not against it. You may own and be able to hold a gun, but it does you no good if you only use it to shoot yourself in the foot.

Men are single minded thinkers, while women think of a bazillion things at once. Thoughts stream through the tiers of ladies minds like NY Times Square ticker tape plastered upon stories and stories of high-rises, nonstop... twenty-four-seven... three-hundred-sixty-four. We think, over think, analyze and think about it some more.

With men it’s pretty much, “what you see is what you get”. You think that this would be easy to deal with, but for us women, not so much. We have a hard time comprehending the fact that your world doesn’t revolve around us, that you don’t spend your days thinking of us because we have thought about you all day. However, what we need to realize is that we, ladies, have thought about a whole hell of a lot throughout our day, not just him.

The trick ladies, is to get him to think of you. As women desire the affection, thoughts and praise of men, we need to get in their head because for men, it's "out of sight, out of mind". When I was 22 I spent a summer in Germany with one of my girlfriends where she met a guy. She and I during his time discussed the need to be able to get into the mind of men.

While we were there one evening she and I shared his bed, while he, being the gentleman that he was, took his couch in the next room. We teased him and coyly invited him to join us… we made silly sexual comments to one another… we laughed had a good time and entertained him... she performed the first step, she got him to think about her. It worked, he was intrigued. They ended up dating throughout the summer and prior to her departure she did something that I later borrowed and did to Da Bod.

When I left Portland before moving to California, I placed small pieces of paper with thoughts from me written on them throughout Da Bod’s house in random places… the pocket of his winter jacket (tellng him, "OCG is thinking about you right now"), the jacket of one of his porn DVDs ("You naughty boy..."), various drawers ("OCG misses you"), the bag where he kept his condoms ("She won't be as great as me!")… everywhere.

Through dozens of slips of paper I (cutely) reminded him over the next year and a half (until he finally moved down here) of me in little ways. Even though he had a girlfriend for a while he thought of me and smiled and got excited and called me when ever he discovered a new note in this faux scavenger hunt...that reminded him of me.

Basically I will do whatever it takes to get YOU to think of ME when I am not there...thus the outfits et al when I am there... just need to get into your head. I think women dont realize that might be the single most important thing and most difficult thing... to get within the thick skulls of men, and resurface in it throughout his day... without being there standing in front of him...

A friend and I were chatting about this and he made the most brilliant comment, "Even if the thing we wanted most in the world was to be thinking of you 24/7, it just isn't mentally possible. The only way for us to be able to do that would be to sit, in a straightjacket, in a silent room with photographs of you all over the place. Then we'd probably think of lunch. At which point we forget about you."

So ladies, what do YOU do in the little things to get him to be reminded of you?

(The bedroom treats will be discussed tomorow...)